The fact that you even had to post a poll up and ask speaks volumes (not a criticism of you, but at our values). If you want a dildo shoved up your arse, all good fun. If you don't, it's anal ****. The same as if he mounted the stripper, got a dildo out and did the same to her. In fact, you could ask this another way: Q: Girls, if a bloke gets on your back, rides you like a horse and then shoves a dildo in your arse, despite your requests for him not too, should you consider yourself to have been violated? It's strange when as a society we accept that sexual violence against a woman is to be abhored, yet when a woman either assaults or attacks a man (and statutory **** when it's a minor) everyone giggles in a corner.