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Tip toe through the Family Law mine field

Discussion in 'The Pub' at netrider.net.au started by Oldmaid, Feb 4, 2016.

  1. JustusJustus may or may not have any comments but I am just starting to negotiate the joys of family law.
    I am wanting to get the separation formalised and divorce going...but I am unsure whether to go for fixed fee (but pay for any disimbursements) or go by the hour.
    My issue is I will be living in Port and happy to fly down to Sydney to action things attend court etc but need to have confidence that I am not being milked by not being on Sydney to pop by at the drop of a hat.

    I have read up quite a lot and almost feel I could represent myself TBH but obviously need someone to "encourage" an affadavit out of the ex re separation dates etc and also spmeone to serve papers.



    I want it over and done ASAP and as long as the ex doesn't go after my bike, he can frickin well keep most things including the investment portfolio and all his super. I keep my super, half the house, 3 investment paintings and all my jewellery AND ZEDDEE.
    BUT If he goes after my bike to be a snark, the prick will end up with nothing I promise. If he wants to play smartarses, then we can both start servng subpoenas for various things! Could make the papers if we go after each other like that lol! Watch that space.

    Anyway if anyone knows a decent Family Law specialist around Parramatta please let me know.
    Comment or suggestions very very much appreciated. Gawd I lurve a but of stress (not) :)
     
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  2. To make things easier I will buy Zeddee of you for $1. I'll lease it back to you for the monthly payments.
     
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  3. #3 Oldmaid, Feb 4, 2016
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    Watch out GeorgeOGeorgeO or you'll be named on the divorce petition ;)
     
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  4. Good luck OldmaidOldmaid, hope you will get it sorted quickly and as painlessly as possible to your satisfaction. I've been through the same nearly 5 years ago. Had legal advice, but we didn't go to court. I walked out with 40% and my ex kept 60% of assets including family home that he built and a rental property in Melbourne. We agreed not to include our supers or my income into the assets, just property. He gave me 100% custody of our son too with the proviso that he won't pay child support. Three months of negotiations, but I was free in the end with very little blood. It has been a very steep learning curve, but I've been counting my blessing ever since. 14 years of struggle and mental third degree was over, my life has just begun.

    Stay strong and don't let all the bitter poison get to you, it will soon be over, you will never see or hear from him again. Look after yourself Jane and take care!
     
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  6. All I can say is good luck and agree with Fr33dmFr33dm don't let the experience be a bitter one. I have seen many of my friends over the years get stuck in the they said I said merry go around and even when it was over and the Decree Nisi issued it embittered them for many years. Get it over quickly and move on to happier things.
     
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  8. Good luck OldmaidOldmaid , be sure not to give too much away in the public forum in case it gets used against you.
     
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  9. #9 PSYKC, Feb 4, 2016
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    What a man! Not! How do u walk away from your son?
    Wow, bet you're glad to see the back of him!
     
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  10. Good luck OldmaidOldmaid! Lucky for you (in this instance) that you don't have kids! When this is done, you never have to see, speak or hear from him again!!!
    Wishing you lots of strength to stay firm and not let him rattle you!!!
     
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  11. In my opinion try to keep it simple OldmaidOldmaid .:happy:
    Don't won't to be paying certain people $200,$ 600,or what ever per hour.You will end up having a shit fit.(y).
     
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  12. To save u both a lot of $ have u tried sitting down and seeing if u can come to an agreement?
     
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  13. I can't offer any experience to help, Miss Jane, but I wish you all the best in this torturous process....
     
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  14. Best wishes OldmaidOldmaid; not something I have personal experience of, but I know it can't be easy. Let me know if there's anything you need -- even company for a 'sanity restoration ride.' ;)
     
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  15. Good luck OldmaidOldmaid these things suck, but need to be sorted with the least amount of impact on you, and I don't just mean financially.....I am technically divorced and a widower due to relationship break downs. But I still have my own home that I have shared with my 2 boys for the last 15 years.
     
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  16. when I dump Angie if she ever refuses to help buy my bikes im going to take every thing
     
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  17. Sorry to hear of your troubles :-/ but onwards and upwards sister ...

    While I understand your impulse to "get it over and done with" remember that this is money and objectivity is paramount. Get advice from an accountant before giving up any assets. Lawyers don't know shit about money except their own.

    F*ck him ... take the investments ... and then buy lots of bikes =D
     
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  18. I wish gee I wish...
    sorry I just had to wipe the tears of laughter from my eyes...if we had EVER been able to have a discussion or come to an agreement in the last 15 yrs that didn't result in three weeks of silence or me selling my soul to the peace devil, there wouldn't me here and him there. :(

    After 37yrs the lines are blurry and we are BOTH at fault.
    I just want out and to breathe again oh and ride without comments like "was going to get you death certificate (whoops I meant gift certificate) for the bike for christmas" comments anymore :devil:
     
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  19. She wont need anything, she will have attained saint status by then........
     
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  20. All sympathy Oldmaid, No advice.

    I'm currently holding my daughters hand through a breakup of her relationship after 15 years. What should be simple is not, especially as there is my 7 year old grandson to consider, and the fact that she owns considerable debt on his behalf. A pox on parasitic dreamers with a "lifestyle habit" This is going to take a good accountant and legal help to unravel.

    Oh, I do have a bit of useful advice - probably most appropriate for the younger folk. Joint accounts are not a good symbol of trust and faith in a partners judgement. They are an instrument of domestic war. Surely you want to talk about other things with your partner.
     
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