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Help me change Mum's mind so I can get a motorbike

Discussion in 'General Motorcycling Discussion' started by Ekam, Jan 9, 2016.


Should I consider owning a motorcycle?

Poll closed May 11, 2016.
  1. Yes

  2. No

  3. Unsure

Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. So the thing is that I have been in love with motorcycles since i was 5. Now im 15 (today) :D (SO HAPPY 1 MORE YEAR). My dream has been to own my own motorcycle and ride it as much as i can. But my parents think that it is way too dangerous. I know that there are more risks of accidents and other injuries but I am passionate about motorcycles.

    The first time I tried riding one of my uncle's OMALAWWDD I was in LOVE. I know I should listen to my parents but I need some advice on if i should or should not take the decision of getting a motorcycle license in my 1st year of the legal riding age. As you see, I am planning ahead 1 whole year so i can be a safe and a good rider. I also love the motorcycling community as they help each other when one is in need (even if they dont know each other). Unlike other kids, for my entertainment I usually watch motovlogs on youtube and am planning to do something similar if I get a motorcycle.

    Convincing my parents wouldn't be too hard since my dad is already on my side :) but my mum is a bit worried about me. The reason that I am writing this is because I'm not too sure if I am making the right decision. I am doubt full cos I trust my parents more that anyone in the world. So please I request you to suggest me if I should or not consider owning a motocycle.

    Thankya very much. =D also sorry that this is a bit long.
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  2. Hmmm ... come to a motorcycle community and ask them if you should consider getting a motorcycle? Hahahahaha. :)

    What I think you're really asking, is can we help provide some words you can convey to Mum to give her some comfort and change her mind.
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  3. Haha. Well kinda. :D:D
  4. Your parents ultimately have your best interest at heart, I've had friends and also my brother's children in the same situation as you, in my brothers case (a rider) has decided to allow his son to get his when reaching age, but with condition he only ride escorted by himself. Taking the position that if your going to get your licence eventually anyway, why not do it when you can be taught not just jump on and go at 18 or 19.
  5. My mum was dead set against bikes. I wanted one when i was 18, but didnt want to upset anyone. And when i got my car license i have to admit I was a dick on the roads.

    So im glad i didnt, but regret that it took me nearly another 30 years to remember my desire.

    But parents are parents. All you can do is talk it over. Repeatedly. Reasonably. And repectfully of their thoughts and worries
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  6. There is no doubt that motorcycling is a more dangerous option than a car with airbags, seatbelts and crumple zones all around you. It will make you a better road user and driver though because you need to learn situational awareness to stay safe. To win your parents over you need to show them that you are determined and you will make every effort to be a safe rider. Mothers always worry, it comes with the territory, I have been riding for 30 years and my mother still rings me if there is a news item about a bike accident in my area. You won't stop her worrying you can only try and offset some of that worry by your attitude.

    Show that you have budgeted for good quality riding gear that may limit damage if you have an off. Riding gear is not magic elvan armour though so budget to do rider training, and let your parents know you are doing that training to improve your skills and protect yourself better. Good Luck.
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  7. #7 Ekam, Jan 9, 2016
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    Thank you for your reply. These responses are helping me a lot. :)

    Thank you brother.

    Yeah but my parents trust me to be safe on the road and my dad is a driving instructor and he keeps me updated with different situations on the road and how to be safe. Honestly I feel lucky that he is my dad and he supports me. Thank you for your reply. Im sure that you advise will help me.
  8. I think the best thing you can do is start out in a car for a couple years and then go for your bike license. Trying to learn how to ride a bike on the road, as well as trying to get down all the road rules and stuff all by yourself I think would make it more dangerous ten-fold. Starting out in a car you can have someone guiding you a long the way, I know I'd probably be dead if I tried riding on the road without prior car experience.
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  9. Thank you :)
  10. As you know my 8 year old daughter showed interest in riding bikes. I thought that the best way for her to be a good rider on the road when she's old enough is to start her young. She's been riding regularly for 18 months on her 90cc bike. I think if she can get good and comfy at riding on dirt and loose surfaces the road will be a snack for her one day.
    I think this applies to you also mate.
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  11. Welcome to NR, mate.
    It's a great place to discuss these things. There is thousands of years of combined riding experience here.

    Disclaimer: This is coming from a 46 year old, so mind the huge generation gap.

    Young men have a tendency to act on instinct, driven by adrenaline and an abundance of testosterone. They also happen to believe immortality is their birth right. This can get them hurt or killed in any number of spectacular, news-worthy ways.

    Oldies among us: Some ticks of approval here, please...

    Mothers know this and worry accordingly. As CJVFR rightly said, it's pretty much their job.

    Knowing how to behave on the road, with the rest of us crazy monkeys, helps you to survive, despite yourself.

    Learn to drive, get your insurance rating up a bit, then get a road bike.

    In the meantime, perhaps get a car + bike trailer, your bike licence and a cheap 250cc trail bike and master riding in the loose stuff.
    In time, you'll become a better driver, a much better rider and be around to preach to the next generation.

    Mind you, I learned to ride only 2 years ago. I think this puts me in the high risk category of the newbie middle-aged rider with slow reflexes, so what the hell would I know... Choose well...
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  12. Welcome to the forums.

    This may be your best point of argument, show them that it's a considered decision and not just a whim by dedicating time and money to rider training (birthday and Christmas presents?), above what's offered at the license stage. This is your primary defence against crashing i.e.: training, which helps develop a better attitude to your own and others safety. Riding gear is always a secondary safety measure (still, buy the best you can afford)..
  13. #13 Ekam, Jan 9, 2016
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    Cheers man, I wish her all the best :)

    Thank you for the information :)

    Aye man thank you for your time and reply. I believe I can do what you suggested by going on dirt and building up my training. :D
  14. Or if not dirt, save up and buy a dedicated track bike. You can ride this on the track with a normal license (it would need a race license I assume if you actually get into and and start racing). Benefit of this is not only learning to ride properly (if taught), but you get your speed kicks on the track rather than on the road.
  15. thnkya
  16. The day I was old enough to get my L's I bought a 700cc bike. That was in 1963 .I am still alive .....and riding.
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  17. The way I see it is that whilst you are under your parent's roof you generally need to follow their rules. That doesn't mean you can't have an adult conversation about it, but if you get a flat refusal then you just have to suck it up.

    I do agree with the above posters that getting a dirt bike to learn some riding skills would be a good compromise if your parents agree. Along with some good quality protective gear and rider training once you are out on the road.
  18. #18 Ekam, Jan 9, 2016
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    Niceee dude

    Yeah agreed but I normally do follow their rules and sometimes have serious conversations with them. Most of the time when i make my own decisions like joining the local cricket team, I turnt positive sometime after. Won some awards and now I have stopped playing cos gotta focus on studies now. I have a good feeling about riding. And am kinda supported by my parents now. So thats why I am wondering if I should convince them or not. Btw thanks for the reply :)
  19. Tell them you are thinking about taking up smoking meth as all the other kids your age are doing it. Once they freak out and lecture you, agree with them and finish by saying you might just get a bike and do your own thing instead.
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  20. Lol but they are brown. Instead of them getting scared ill get a beating rofl. #justbrownparentthing