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Baby coming. Bike is staying.

Discussion in 'General Motorcycling Discussion' started by SAMB, Jul 13, 2011.

  1. Forgive me if this has been posted before but I did a search and couldn't find anything relating to it.

    Let me start off by saying I love riding. I mean I ****ing love it. I ride to work every day and I'm out on the bike every weekend. Whether it be a long-ish ride out near Healesville or just a short one down to St. Kilda for a coffee. I ****ing love it and I can't stay off of it.

    Now I'm 30 years old and my wife and I are just about to have our first child. Wife is 8 months pregnant. A friend of mine around the same age is also expecting a baby and he has decided to sell his bike and as he put it "I'll get another one when the kid is 18 and doesn't have to rely on me". Thankfully my wife knows how much joy riding my bike gives me so she's not kicking up a fuss and trying to get me to get rid of it but when it comes up around her family I can't help but feel that they think I'm selfish for keeping it. I'm sure you've all seen countless times on bike ads "starting a family, bike must go." Well I'm starting a family and I'm keeping it!

  2. If you're not up financial-shit-creek, why sell it?

    As much as you're going to love your baby, it's going to be good for you to get out on your own and away from it, a bike is the perfect way!
  3. your mate around the same age does not wear the pants at home and is a bit of a sissy.
  4. Just two:
    1. Congratulations!!!
    2. And moments down the track that may be shared (see below)

  5. I went through this same thing.

    Not a financial decision , but from the childs age of about 6 to 12 a lot of hands on time meant that I just wasnt using the bike, so ,.... Sold it.

    Not from 13 onwards, my son is doing his own thing, and so, I bought a new bike.

  6. It's not a financial thing. We have a car as well. It actually works in our favour in that regard as the bike is nothing special really and is much cheaper on petrol than a car. It's the whole "bikes are dangerous" thing. WE know the risks involved much more than a non-rider. All they hear is the news.

    I realize I may not be able to get out every weekend for the all day rides BUT I will most certainly find time to ride here and there. Even if it means taking the long way home from work.
  7. I have 4 kids under 7, commute to the city every day, and it is the best part of my job. Everything is a risk...
  8. It doesn't sound like you're concerned, but one option might be some income protection insurance, or life insurance (whatever suits your situation best).
  9. That's an awesome clip. :D

    Dude, Keep the bike. You might not be able to ride as much when the baby arrives but at least its still there WHEN/IF you want to go for a ride.
  10. 3rd that :)
  11. I've already compromised with my other half. When the kids start to come along, I become a track only rider.

    Oh, what a shame...need a dedicated track bike. How terrible for me...
  12. There is no need to sell something you love because of an expanding family. You may just have to alter it a little. I myself now have a 4 week old son at home and loving every minute with him.
    My background was enduro riding for quite a number of years however I knew once the little one came along the time and costs involved would be too much to handle – babies are expensive. So now I have a road bike which I also love riding. It was a good compromise as I enjoy the rides, big or small, and it’s great to get home and not have to waste time washing a lot of dirty gear so I can spend more time with my son.
    The only reason the bike would be sold off is if there was financial difficulty but we had planned well ahead for this so I can’t see that happening.
    Good luck to you and your wife. It is an experience like no other.
  13. Keep the bike, you'll find it harder to arrange time to go for rides but you'll enjoy the stress relief you get from riding even more with the extra effort you'll be putting in with a family.

    At least that has been my experience :)

    That's a great advert from the Sussex mob!
  14. Yep same here, my son is 10 months old now and our second is due in January - I have no plans to sell the bike (and in fact bought a brand new one when my son was only 2 months old).

    It has been a while since I've had a chance to go for a good weekend ride though. I would suggest that might be the only difference - at least once they start to get a bit mobile.

    Everyone will make their own decisions and its easy to criticize the actions of others - do what works for your family and tell the rest to mind their own business.

    Edit: Forgot to add a big congratulations - you'll absolutely love it, it would have been said to you a thousand times by now I'm sure, but it really is special and far more thrilling than any ride could be.
  15. Wow, this bring backs fond memories. I actually got a bike when my daughter was born. Best thing i ever did. Instead of taking an hour to get to work and an hour to get home, i cut it down to 20min each way. Instead of missing out on appointments, specialist visits, i can ride out and not miss out on too much work. Plus i can wind down on the weekends by going on a decent ride.
  16. Same as Robbie here. My daughter is 10 months old and I got my learners permit when she was 6 weeks old and got my bike 4 months ago.

    I commute to work everyday and the net effect is an hour less on PT a day. That's an extra hour i spend with her everyday and an hour a day my wife can take to herself.

    Motorcycling is for family values ;)
  17. Nice one, Comrade. (y)

    Ride a motorbike and spend more time with your family.
  18. Thank god Mrs Messy rides... Though kid talk hasnt come up yet in that regard....
  19. I've gone through times when the kids were little when I didn't have a bike, because we kinda had to have a car and I really couldn't afford both. We still managed to get into terrible money trouble anyway. Now, I'm no better off for money, but there's no reason I need a roof over my wheels, so I'm back on bikes again.

    The decision to stop because you're the bread winner and not a disposable asset is one I respect. I never had that level of self control. Good on him if that's his decision.

    Your decision, to stay on the bike - that's what I would have done if I could. The risk is there - we all know it. If you ride and you don't recognise it, then you're a fool. But the risk is not that great. Not everyone who throws a leg over a motorcycle dies on it. Despite what your doctor or your mother-in-law try to tell you.

    And kids love bikes. My grand kids love to get on the back of mine. Think how proud you're going to be in 20 years when your daughter or son turns up on their new bike.
  20. I am all for keeping the bike. I would. My sister has two kids and married a pretty cool bloke. He has the little man of 2 1/2 years on a 50cc being pushed around the back yard to prepare him for riding it proper when he is 4-5 years old. My sis isn't cracking a shit about the bikes. She goes out bush with him when he wants to do a race or a ride with his old man. That's pretty cool, and the little fella absolutely loves his bike.